More and more studies are published on the subject. More and more experts are trying to warn us that we are on a very bad path, but the avalanche has started. It rolls down in such a way that it sweeps away everything in its path, despite the cries of many knowledgeable teachers, psychologists, and futurists. It’s like there’s no stopping.
Our children live their everyday lives as gods on earth. Most have unlimited power and infinite will. All this is topped off by the wish basket that we wave in front of them every day. Oh god, what are we going to do? Where’s the common sense? Due to the fact that at some point the adult in question was hurt, or is full of unprocessed traumas, he now suddenly believes that he is capable of being a perfect parent by giving everything to his child?! Because someone never got the little train, or got a father’s neck soup online, do you really think it’s a good attitude to start fearing your own child? When the 120-kilogram dad standing in the middle of the store doesn’t dare to say no, because then his swaggering 4-year-old princess doesn’t like him, it’s a very sad sight. He just looks at him and feels that the child has power over him. And leave it. The child can no longer push the boundaries because there are simply no boundaries.
You can do, get anything. And anytime. Today, tomorrow and whenever, because if I don’t, then I will do it, and then you will shout in the middle of the mall that I hate you! Well, a lot of people shake their heads at this and then shake it disapprovingly, because we really, really like to judge.
But please, what are we adults doing? Are we starting a generation of violent, impatient, demanding, selfish, insensitive children simply because we are cowards? Where has the responsibility of adults gone? Where has the parental self-awareness gone, in which they were once able to decide what was good or useful for the child?
If we have money, do we really have to give everything to the child just to keep him quiet for half an hour? Do most parents really not want to notice that the age of childhood divinity ends in tragedy? These children will not want to work because they have not learned that work has meaning. They were not given a task. They didn’t have to do anything to achieve their goals. Is it really such a big deal if someone’s heart aches for something they can’t get at that second?
No parent can believe that challenges will escape their child when they grow out of childhood, and with a tiny investment of effort, zero will, and motivation, they will get a lucrative job.
If, as an adult, you don’t experience consequences for your actions over the years, when will you? If we don’t teach him that results can only be achieved through work, then what are we teaching him? How can he go to the Real World, because if he’s stupid and ordinary enough, he can be a star for a few weeks?
What kind of thing is it to be absolved from all responsibility? How do we write a lesson for them, pack them, put them to bed, clean them? How can we let them talk to us in such a way, what with a last straw? When the child tells his father that we’ll do the math at home, because that’s not what you promised! And the adult giggles stupidly because he asks for the 7-year-old’s number. But at the age of 17, this child will not hold him accountable, but will send him to a warmer climate, because he cannot give him enough money or buy him not enough branded stuff.
If you think that this is some sudden burst of anger because I’m in a bad mood, just look around. It’s amazing to see that parents are AFRAID of their own children! Helplessly and alarmed, they watch the stomping, the inarticulate yelling upon hearing a NO. You can walk down the street with your eyes and ears closed and be deep in your phone, but there will be a situation when the closed ears and eyes just open.
The people we educate now, or don’t educate, will one day be our doctors, lawyers, and car mechanics. My God! Honorable exceptions! We can only trust ourselves.
Alas, for us, if there are no parents who dare to set boundaries and establish rules. Woe to us, if we think that this freedom produces healthy-minded adults! Let’s just look around! It would be time to wake up from this deceitful pusillanimity and take out the values that have worked for thousands of years. Not by chance! Honesty, respect, altruism, consideration, honor, and tolerance for others are not old-fashioned. It can’t be. Help! Maybe we can stop the avalanche yet….
